An open letter to all the ‘mom friends’ I’ve met over the years. Thank you for the invitation to your home sales party, but…
Dear ‘Mom Friend’,
the mom I met a few years ago in the waiting room of the dance studio as our daughters run round a mirrored room learning few basic ballet steps.
And you, the mom of my son’s classmate who waits at the gate at the dismissal time and chats with me about how wonderful it is to have our boys in this particular teacher’s class.
Finally you, the new, hip mom on the school parent council who comes up with all these wonderful ideas for school fundraisers.
You’re all very lovely ladies, but…
send me evites to your next kitchen gadget home sales party. I have enough kitchen tools and gadgets as is. My kitchen drawers are overflowing with the shavers and slicers that I never use. I really don’t need another one to clutter my kitchen. And let’s face it, if I come to the party, I will feel bad about not buying anything and is I will pick up something that I think I could maybe, possibly use one day, but never will.
Don’t Facebook Message me the invitation to your latest and greatest home jewellery sales party. Have you seen me? I wear 5 pieces of jewellery, and 3 of them have sentimental value, so I never change them. So, I will probably buy one of the smaller, overpriced necklaces, place it in my ‘jewellery drawer’ when it arrives and forget I got it. All because I felt obligated to buy it and contribute to your “free hostess gift”, since after all, you did put time and effort into preparing some homemade snacks.
I really don’t want you to text me about the ‘girls’ night to check out these wonderful bags and purses while enjoying delicious pastry and sipping on wine’ at your home sales party. I have plenty of bags and purses, and only use a few of them according to season and colour. Even so, I still have an eye on a few gorgeous, high quality leather, brand name purses that in all honesty, are about the same price as your hyped up, trendy, canvas bags. And let’s be honest, how many beach bags do I need? And as it was with all the previous home sales parties, I will pick up a new bag and keep it in my closet or gift it to someone in place of something that would have cost me half the price.
I get it.
Your friend is starting her new home sales business and you want to help. Or maybe you don’t, but you feel awkward saying ‘no’ to the party and obligated, because you’ve been friends for a long time. So you open your address book or friend list, and send an invite to anyone you know and ‘kind-of’ know.
You want them all to say ‘yes’, so that your sales party is a success. You hope that they all buy the most expensive thing in the catalogue, so that you can get the biggest hostess gift they are offering in return for all your efforts. And in the back of your mind, you want a few of them to book a party, so that you can get that amazing item you had your eye on since you saw it, for free.
Dear ‘mom friend’…
in reality we are not friends. We are acquaintances, neighbours, maybe at best co-workers. We are kind and polite towards each other. And we do enjoy conversing occasionally. And we both know that you’re inviting me, not because you really want to get to know me, but to be just another potential consumer.
So when I get the invite to your party I’m thorn. On one hand, I hate saying no, because, well, I get why you invited me. On the other hand, even though most of the companies offer beautiful, quality products, there are very few of them that I’m truly interested in. And if I see something I really like, I do my research, find a consultant and just buy it.
So the next time you’re throwing a home sales party, no matter how wonderful the product or how excited you are about it, please spare me the awkwardness of saying ‘no’ and exclude me from your guest list.